Pandora’s Box

We all enjoy experiencing positive emotions and actively seek them out.  We go out for a good time, plan activities to have fun, gather with family for closeness, and many people when asked their goal in life will say, “I just want to be happy.” But other emotions are felt as bad experiences and we often go to great lengths to avoid them – feelings of anger, disappointment or fear. Sometimes we are taught that certain emotions are somehow “bad” and we shouldn’t experience them.  We believe that “big boys don’t cry” or “nice girls don’t get angry”.  Nonsense!  Big boys and nice girls are normal people too, and to experience the whole range of emotions is perfectly normal.  When we seek to suppress certain emotions we only run into trouble. [Read more…]